BONUS EPISODE: Do You Actually Work With Gay Men?

Welcome to Designed for Desire, the podcast where luxury, kink, and home come together to create spaces that are anything but ordinary.

Hi, I’m Jenny, your host and the creative genius behind White Wave Design, a full-service interior design studio specializing in erotic interiors for badass soulmates. I design for the weird, the wonderful, and the unapologetically unconventional. For those who crave total freedom in the comfort and beauty of home, a place where you never have to hold back. Your home becomes a part of your foreplay. 

Because this niche doesn’t exist in mainstream design, I know you have questions, and this podcast is here to answer them. You’ll hear me switch between pronouns, plurals, and titles because the relationships I work with are as beautifully varied and expansive as the people themselves, and always between consenting adults in a healthy, loving and devoted 24/7 D/s dynamic.

Whatever twists of fate, coincidences, or hidden alignments the universe set in motion, I’m so happy you're here!

Hello Wonderful Weirdo!

This one is less of a question, but a discussion about who I work with, and if I haven’t been clear, this will make it crystal fucking clear. Someone has been paying attention and doing their research, which I super love, and I felt this needed to be addressed right away. 

I have posted multiple times about MM relationships, most recently about Pillion, which is a gay biker BDSM coined Dom-com that I’m really looking forward to watching and has a confirmed release date in Canada of February 13th. The Heated Rivalry hockey romance TV show that was adapted from a book series, which in interviews Jacob Tierney has referred to as “pure queer joy” and “horny joy,” and I couldn’t agree more. And a post where I stated that gay men hold a special spot in my heart.

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Why do I use the term badass soulmates instead of couples?

I work with straight folks, the LGBTQ+ community, and the kink, fetish and BDSM communities. Couples, throuples, and poly families. My stipulations are that you are in a long-term committed relationship because I don’t design for people who are casually dating.

A few reasons for this are:

1. The designs I create are highly personalized, so I’m not able to create a design around generalizations.

2. The homes I design take 3–6+ years to complete. If you are casually dating, the person you introduced me to may have come and gone.

3. I only work with healthy, loving, devoted D/s dynamics that are confident in their kinky sex life and will talk to me about it in great detail.

   
   

I do not work with couples that consider themselves to be vanilla.

I’ve said before that my designs come to me at random times and places, and I believe they come to me from the universe. Most of them are images of male gay or queer relationships, and I change the relationship to be inclusive for my portfolio. It is not a bias to one gender or identity.

It is magic!

This is not something that is new, and I am not jumping on some bandwagon to be a part of the conversation. I have been having these conversations for years and will continue to do so. I posted about these pieces of media because I was excited about them and if you choose to follow me on social media you may also be excited about these love stories.

I don’t speak about my personal life, but I will say that as a person who was assigned female at birth and identifies this way, as well as straight, I have no idea from personal experience what it’s like to have to come out for the first time, be outed before you’re ready, or have to keep coming out multiple times.

But through my research and the accounts of this without a supportive system it is profoundly isolating.

I am an empath and can imagine going through life hiding who you are, hiding who you love, or even more heartbreaking, never ever being with the person you want to be with. Feeling that kind of loneliness and despair, never experiencing true and utter love and devotion. It sits heavy in my chest.

To not be able to declare to the world that this is your person or persons. Your favourite weirdos.

I hope, wish, and dream of a day when being male or female isn’t assumed as your identity, or that being straight is the default. That someday nothing will be assumed and you dress, date, and bring home a person that makes you feel loved and brings you joy.

Representation, seeing, and reading stories that look like you, gives us hope for a different world. It lets us imagine something different is possible.

My north star, More than design. This is identity., is more than just six words. It sums up everything I do and strive for.

I work with all the colours of the rainbow. We use titles and labels to understand the world, and while they can sometimes feel limiting, like being boxed in, language helps us feel seen, helps us communicate, and evolves as we do.

If you are still closeted, for lack of a better term, that is your choice. There are real-world consequences once you come out. There is already enough shame and guilt running through your system that the pressure to come out doesn’t need to add to the pile.

I would absolutely design a home for you and your love muffin or muffin(s) if you aren’t out, and would absolutely keep your private life private. If you aren’t ready or don’t feel that you are able to.

The nature of my design studio, designing for pleasure and sex, already has a high level of discretion, and this would be regarded and honoured in the same way. Homes are the one place where love doesn’t have to explain itself. Where our rituals, our relationships, dynamics, and our quiet truths are held, along with the parts of us the world doesn’t always make room for. My work exists so that love, in all its forms, has somewhere to land.

You may already be hiding from the world. I would never want you to hide in your home.

More than design. This is identity.

My intention for this episode was for you to know that you’re not alone. To feel seen, heard, and understood. To know that your desires are valid, and that a home designed to enhance your sex life is not only possible, it’s waiting for you.

Maybe you laughed. Maybe a memory tugged at your heartstrings. Maybe you had an aha moment, or whispered, “she gets me.”

If you feel that working with the White Wave Design team is for you, please visit our Design Inquiry page.

Thank you for spending this time with me and for allowing me to be part of your journey. Until next time… have joy.

Jenny 💀