This week’s Q&A goes straight into the questions people are curious about but rarely ask out loud: my personal boundaries around kinks and preferences, why I don’t need to share my sex life to design powerfully for yours, what embarrassment really looks like in intimate design conversations, what I actually mean by “access to your lifestyle,” and what happens when a contractor sees the St. Andrew’s Cross.

This bonus episode is about clarity. About who I work with, who I design for, and why long-term, committed relationships matter in the work I do. It’s a conversation about representation, discretion, and creating homes that reflect identity, intimacy, and truth. A reminder that home can hold what the world sometimes cannot. If you’ve ever wondered whether your relationship, your dynamic, or your privacy would be respected here, this episode is for you.

In this Q&A, I’m answering four juicy questions you sent in about ideal clients, saying no, whether kink makes homes more expensive, and how much control clients actually have. I don’t know the intention behind any of the questions, so naturally I gave multiple answers and went on several delightful tangents. If you’re curious about what this work looks like behind the scenes, how I decide who I work with, what makes a kinky home cost what it costs, or why surrender is a des